true friend 11/01/2009
Everyone wants to be a true friend for their friends. But sometimes we don’t know how to be. Sometimes, we make mistakes in our relationship, we forget that everyone have privacy need. So, we lose our friends because our friends feel that we are not be respected by them.
For being true friend is needed something to be given (it doesn’t mean material only). But, if we can do it, we will never be forgotten by our friends.
Indeed, so difficult to be true friends exactly, but these ways below will help us to be a true friend:
1. We must understand how our friend’s attitude
Understanding our friends is a difficult thing because we don’t know them when they are children and maybe their attitudes are very different from us. So we have to be able to understand what they do, but don’t want to be loser.
2. Try to know their privacy
One thing you shouldn’t do is don’t mess their privacy. If they don’t want to ask helping you, let them finish their trouble by themselves. Because if you mess or actually you want to help them, but the result is you mess their privacy and in fact you forget the limit between you. It will cause that they feel be disturbed. Realizing that sometimes someone need to be alone, it is the best thing.
3. Understanding their background (especially about their family).
Everyone has the past history whether bad or good. If you really want to make a friend with them, forget all of that. Remember, if you want to be a true friend in the present or future, forget their past! Don’t tell to everyone if your friend has bad stories in their life, that can make a space between you or make they are ashamed to face their life.
4. Being a friend anytime
Don’t you let them in their sorrow because a true friend never lets friend go when they are needed.
5. Can save their secrets that is trusted in you
6. Don’t ever betray them
7. Be able to forget their bad things and always remember their kind hearted
If we can do at least one of them, we are sure that all our friends will respect us, do like we do and our friend will never let we go, whenever we need, they will be there. It is so beautiful to have a true friend in our life. We will go through this life happily because there is place to share together. We really live in this world.